e.i.b.: Inviting Your Circle

and the invitation is to join you in your change process.

How would it feel to have the people in your life more fully connect with you as you are moving through something?

Maybe you already have this in your life. Probably you experience this in some parts of your life but not others.

I’m wondering what it would look like—and more importantly, feel like—for you if you felt more at ease being in the midst of a change and sharing about it with your circle of folks (the people in your life) along the way?

The clincher is really that it’s not about checking “progress” on the change but rather, being in it alongside others.

An example that I’m thinking of is a kind and generous woman I’ve gotten to know who was in the process of job hunting for a long time as she lost her job several months before the pandemic hit and thus, was finding it incredibly challenging to secure a job in the midst of many others attempting to do the same.

We were connecting quite frequently for awhile, as she was integral in supporting me with my podcast launch (look out in the next few days for something uber special). Whenever we touched base, I attempted to check in with her about this change process of hers, though it often did end up feeling like a check in progress.

It’s super hard (at least for me!) to not focus on the end goal of a change!!

But I think it still felt generous and connective to connect about the change she was moving through, as she was moving through it.

Of course, I fully embrace that there are some people who you naturally want to share with as you are in the midst of the change and some other people that you really don’t want to be that vulnerable around.

The sticky part about this is… or rather, the area of potential growth is that maybe there are a few people who you’ve shuffled into the latter category who really could rise to the occasion and step into the former.

And maybe the more we all collectively share what we’re in the midst of, the more we could compassionately recognize how we’re all in flux—in one way or another.

So, an #experimentsinbelonging challenge for you:

ponder about and choose one person in your life you’d like to connect over a change process, whether it’s a change they are moving through or you are moving through. And then, start connecting.

I’m curious to hear how you’d like to make this challenge your own, leave a comment if you’d like.

And, an invitation to people who identify as womxn who are in the midst of change:

My creative collaborator and friend, Heather Riley, and I are co-hosting a hybrid (virtual and in-person) gathering for womxn who are in the midst of change. It’s called Moving from the Marrow: A Creative Quest for Womxn in the Midst of Change.

If you…

• are intrigued by the title,

• are experiencing challenges as you move through change,

• and / or are seeking to be in community with fellow womxn,

… I recommend you read further details about the gathering. It’s on Saturday June 5, in ~ two weeks. We are offering sliding scale pricing, any amount one gives is abundant.

As always, feel free to reply to this emailed post with any questions.

Til tomorrow,

Cassandra