This was so much easier when I was single and orders of magnitude easier before I had kids. I think there are two main parts, in order: I have to believe that I need and am worthy of retreat; and my partner needs to be a partner. (And there needs to be financial means.) Most women I know do the majority of the work, even if the husbands do a fair amount of housework. Many have written about this already, but "the invisible load"—keeping track of everything that's going on, gone on, needs to go on. It's a lot.
But, even short of a partner who picks up that kind of work, they need to be supportive of time away and take care of things in your absence.
This was so much easier when I was single and orders of magnitude easier before I had kids. I think there are two main parts, in order: I have to believe that I need and am worthy of retreat; and my partner needs to be a partner. (And there needs to be financial means.) Most women I know do the majority of the work, even if the husbands do a fair amount of housework. Many have written about this already, but "the invisible load"—keeping track of everything that's going on, gone on, needs to go on. It's a lot.
But, even short of a partner who picks up that kind of work, they need to be supportive of time away and take care of things in your absence.